Sometimes love isn’t always rainbows and butterflies. Unfortunately it is true when it’s said that you have to kiss a few frogs, before you get to the prince. Only sometimes it seems as if we have kissed way too many frogs, dated a lot of them and have decided that Prince Charming is stuck in traffic or kidnapped by an army of frogs. Who knows!
Being in a relationship and in love can be one of the greatest feelings in the world, but there’s never a true guide on how to have the “perfect” relationship. While on that journey to finding that special person, it’s important to remember the things to NEVER settle for when being in a relationship with someone:
Never be with someone who doesn’t fully support you and your life goals
If you want to go and conquer the world, do it! How you live your life and what makes you happy is your choice! You should never be with someone who prevents you from living the life you truly want and making your dreams come true. You want them to be by your side as you walk your path, not trailing behind or running far away from you.
Never be with someone who is not willing to grow with you
You’re never going to stay the same person as you get older. Things change, shit happens and you grow up. Your perspective on things can change, your interests, hobbies, social circle, etc. but you should never be with someone who isn’t willing to grow as a person as well. You have to allow yourself to move forward even if they’re choosing to stay behind.
Never be with someone who treats the relationship as if it’s a task
Relationships are never easy and require effort on both parts, but it should never be treated as if it’s a job. You can’t have someone text you at least once everyday just to say they texted you, so you won’t get mad. You can’t have someone that makes you feel as if you have to be fit in their schedule for a date. You want to be with someone who wants to be with you and enjoys spending time with you, just as much as you do with them. Be each other’s partners, not burdens.
Never be with someone who doesn’t respect you
If you’re with someone who does nothing to prove that they respect you, leave them immediately. Why be with someone who has no morals and probably treats their car better than you?
Never be with someone who has all the words, but none of the actions to prove their love
They say all the right things, but do they ever prove it? Sure they can say they’re sorry you’re feeling sick and wish they could be there to make you feel better, but do they actually show up with soup in hand, ready to keep you company? Now, this doesn’t mean that you need them to plan a candlelit dinner and give a bouquet of flowers everyday (Clearly Ryan Gosling already does that in our dreams #lifegoals), but you do want to be with someone who ensures that they always show that they genuinely love you, even if it’s with the simple things.
If you’re looking to be in a relationship or are in one, just always ensure that you’re with someone who loves you unconditionally, brings out the best in you and is ultimately your best friend.