Let’s be real, having a squad of friends is something we all wish we could have, but that doesn’t mean we necessarily need it to be happy.
I’ve always been told that if you learn to love life, life will love you back. The older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve given precedent to that idea. I’ve become more selective on who I trust and dedicate my free time with. I’m beginning to seek doing things that I genuinely enjoy and surround myself with people that inspire me to be myself and live fearlessly. While I love hanging out with the close-knit group of friends I have, lately I’ve decided that it’s time to start really embracing enjoying my own company.
Now prior to starting this challenge for self-exploration, the one question I had was one that seemed self-explanatory, but difficult to truly answer:
How do you enjoy being on your own?
After giving it much thought, I’ve narrowed it down to 3 simple ways that I have learned to enjoy my own company and maybe they could help you in determining how to enjoy yours!
1.Figure out what you love to do
I’m sure any post-grad or struggling adult desperate for a job hates being asked the infamous, “So, what are you doing with your life?” mumbo jumbo. I’m not talking about, what you want to do for the rest of your life.What I am talking about is figuring out what you like to do for FUN that you can enjoy in the present time.
Do you like to sit around and watch TV? Do you like to go out and shop at your fave stores? Is there anything you’ve always wanted to do or try? Perhaps rock climbing, trying to the new coffee shop on the corner, or (gasp) work out? You have to take the time to think about what genuinely makes you happy and you have a great passion for. Once you figure that out, it’s time to move to the next step.
2. Actually try new things and do it alone
Sometimes the only way to figure out what you love to do is through trial and error. If you try something different and absolutely hate it, then you can just say peace out, never do it again and then go try something else. It’s not that difficult! Just think of it as your own mini self-exploration. Go to a restaurant alone. Go to a movie alone. Go shopping alone. Trying new things and doing them on your own, means you learn to enjoy the day simply doing things without having to need people around all the time. While it’s nice to be with your friends, isn’t it rewarding when you realize that you can have just as much fun on your own as well? Once you acquire this perspective, the next step arrives!
3. Learn to be your own best friend
Being on your own means you learn to become your own support system. Obviously having friends to go to when you’re feeling down is great, but sometimes it can be a powerful trait to have the capability to work through things on your own without depending on anyone. Learn how to handle hurt, pain, anger, etc. by allowing yourself to feel it rather than run away from it. You alone have the capability to get through anything and you have to trust that you can on your own.
We all say we want to be strong, independent women, but do you truly allow yourself to go through the journey of actually becoming one? Embrace being a badass boss babe and get out there! An adventure is waiting for you and you alone have the power to make it worthwhile. Don’t waste it!